Archive for the ‘Meditation’ Category

Meditation during Massage

Wednesday, April 21st, 2010

I’ve had a few clients recount experiences with other practitioners.  They felt a bit uncomfortable when during the massage, the practitioner chose to chant or in some cases even sing.   Talking is one thing; in my viewpoint the option should always be with the client and not the massage therapist.  Chanting or singing should never be something that is put into a session without the client being made aware of it first.  I for one would opt out.

However, I do find that massage can be very meditative for both the massage therapist and the massage client.   For some, it’s the only time and space where there is no requirement to talk.  I often tell clients, “Your only job on the table is to breathe.”    Often, their amazement at this statement brings me such great joy.   We are all so busy these days, and checking in and talking and discussing, texting, many people find themselves tethered to communication devices (ie phones, smartphones, computers) that being allowed space and even invited not to communicate brings relief.

The mind is allowed to wander, as in savasana, a yoga practice that is a favorite of many yogis.  In savasana you lie on the floor, ankles about mat width apart (yoga mat of course, about two feet),palms turned up toward the ceiling with hands a few inches from the hips.     This is to relax all muscles after class, and also serves as a time where the mind and body are allowed tobe separate.

Let Go during your massage.  Give yourself the space to relax and be open to what the mind brings.  Feel free to share with your massage therapist, we hear quite a lot.   I tell my massage clients, “It’s you, me and the four walls.”   The massage therapist is there to give you space.   Allow yourself that space and see what happens.

If you do encounter a massage therapist that seemingly demands conversation when you want quiet or chants and sings without telling you it’s part of their practice.   Let your next massage therapist know about your experience.   Massage is as individual to the practitioner as it is to the receiver.

Gratitude on the Mat

Thursday, November 26th, 2009

Being thankful can come out in so many ways. A small personal note, remembering to say please and thank you, a call when you’re reminded of someone who means a lot to you. Giving doesn’t always have to be a thing, simple words and gestures go so far.

Be thankful for your body, the people in your life that support you, the traditions large and small that make life great.

A simple meditation each day can do wonders for your wellness. Gratitude is such an important practice, especially at times when it seems the most difficult.

Each time you set foot on your yoga mat, set an intention for your practice and dedicate that practice to someone or a group of people that means a lot to you. This will likely transform both your yoga practice and the way in which you view the world.

Gratitude Attitude

Tuesday, April 7th, 2009

Lately, I’ve really begun to see the true power of gratitude.   Currently, things have been taking off and I think it’s mostly due to the fact that I started appreciating what I had a bit more.  ALL OF IT.   The stuff and things, my own idiosyncracies,  the idiosyncracies of others, my routine both yoga and life.

I’m discovering that the more I love it, the more that it loves me back.    Even to the point of asking for things and having them happen.    I know that you can find this from any number of self-help - change-your-life-in-one-simple-step gurus out there, but you know, the funny thing is that they’re right. No matter what voice or face you put to it, being thankful actually brings you more to be thankful for.

As yet untitled

Tuesday, April 7th, 2009

Starting with the title, always seems to trip me up.  I just realized, how can I have a title without anything written on the page.  Am I like the yoga student who is very fixed on knowing the name of the pose without taking even one second to think about its shape.   Every yoga practitioner has done this by the way, whether the moment is long or short, you’ve been there.

Can this also be what happens in those moments of  [insert un-named emotion here].   There are many different ways our emotions present themselves.  Some have a tendency toward tears, while others need physical activity to “deal with their emotions”   No matter how you deal.  Whatever way that feels right to you is what you should do.  So long as it does not have a negative impact on the ones you love.

Poor ways of dealing with emotions are those that mask the emotion or create a sort of numbing effect.    Pacifying oneself for a time can be fine, however, it is all too often that one thing leads to another and in the words of Snow Patrol “..it’s not a party if it happens every night”      The obvious are choices that are found on A&Es show Intervention, alcohol, drugs, gambling.  The not-so-obvious choices are things like cutting (it’s not about the pain), shopping(not really about having things), binging (it’s not about the food - no matter what you do with it afer) and other food-focused issues.

If you see someone or know someone with these issues, the best thing you can do generally is to give them attention.   That’s it, your time, open your ears, go for a walk, play a game, reminisce;  talking to them about their problem will not help much in most cases, that is unless they begin the conversation.

Loved ones aside, lets get back to you and me.   Are you dealing with your emotions in a healthy way?  Are you trying to influence others to deal with their emotions like you?    As a great meditation teacher once told me “Focus Inward”    It truly is amazing how when we focus on ourselves, the world around us seems to change right along with us, perhaps not always in even steps, but you’ll start to notice a shift.

Letting go of want

Tuesday, January 6th, 2009

What is it that you want?  We can all list the things that we think others want or the things we feel compelled to want either by way of advertising or coveting what others have.   But what is it that you truly want?  Do you want to be liked by all, famous even; do you want the world to be a more peaceful place, or simply a small step towards tranquility in your own world.

There are basic needs, food, breath, shelter, etc.  Wanting for these at times seems trivial, although, to some they are surely not.   I’m trying to let go of the things I want.   Although, I seem to keep finding things with every desire that I turn away, a new one arises - two steps forward, one back, and on and on.

In many philosophies this concept of want and desire is the foundation of the right path.   You can choose to imagine yourself in a different time or place, but still, want and desire would be there.   It’s a choice really, to want or be content with what you have.   Contentment is subjective,  I can not tell someone whether or not they are content, I may be able to infer from their body language or venture a guess by the look on their face, but it remains in the eye of the beholder.

Is the desire to let go not just desire in another form?  Where is the equilibrium, this balance that we all hear people talking about.   Each day I take my seat I look for this balance.  I suppose that’s all we can do really, eventually the balance will present itself or maybe one day balance will bring me closer to understanding that there’s really nothing to look for, it’s all right there and has been all along.

Meditation in 3 easy steps

Thursday, November 20th, 2008

Meditation plain and simple!

STEP 1:       Find a quiet space.   A room, the floor, a chair, even the bathroom.   You may need to take further steps to make the space more quiet.  Earplugs can be helpful to this end.    Quiet is best,  if you truly have difficulty with silence, easing into it with music on the soft side,  like a massage or meditation CD can help, but do try to ween yourself into silence as time goes by. 

STEP 2:   Sit.   I know, it seems too simple, but actually it’s not.   If you have trouble in a cross-legged position, sit on a chair.  One without arms is best.     The way you cross your legs or what you sit upon is not important.  Seriously, thoughts like this will only lead you to not actually sit, which ultimately defeats the purpose entirely. 

STEP 3:    Shut your eyes.   You need not be forceful here, the whole process should be fairly relaxing.  

Your quiet, your sitting.  Stillness and silence, that’s what you tell yourself you crave, right?   Well, there it is, now comes the hard part.   Can you make a habit of it?  Can you increase the duration of each sit?  Gradually, you will get better, it will all seem more natural.   It’s best to take it easy on yourself the first few times.    There really is no tangible prize, however, the benefits abound, as you begin to see and feel them, you will know the true value of meditation.  It is a wonderful thing, and most will agree, it’s fairly difficult for something that seems so "easy"   

Enjoy your sit and those to follow.